How to Fill that Hole ‘Big Little Lies’ Left in My Heart -

How to Fill that Hole ‘Big Little Lies’ Left in My Heart

How to Fill that Hole ‘Big Little Lies’ Left in My Heart -

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You know that feeling when a dang good show ends?

Two Sundays ago the spellbinding HBO hit limited series, Big Little Lies, aired its much anticipated season finale. It surely delivered in resolution and clarity (as a well as heartbreak) since it strung us along in suspense and intrigue for the past seven weeks. Wayne and I were captivated and mesmerized from the start. We watched from the first airdate of the premiere and it was agony having to wait a week in between episodes, let alone almost two months for all our questions to be answered. It was well worth it though.

For those unfamiliar with “Big Little Lies” a disclaimer: highly provocative and intensely addictive–you may never put the remote down! Based on Liane Moriarty’s novel, this murder-mystery dark dramedy revolves around the seemingly perfect lives of three women (Reese Witherspoon, Nicole Kidman, Shailene Woodley) and their families in Monterey. There’s a murder and the storytelling is told through the police interrogation of other community residents. With a show that is created and written by David E. Kelley (The Practice, Ally McBeal), directed by Jean-Marc Vallée (Wild, Dallas Buyers Club), and starring an all-star cast, it’s everything you crave from compelling storytelling and brilliant acting. Yes, it’s THAT riveting and irresistible.

Now that the show is done (confirmed no second season), this is how I fill that hole “Big Little Lies” left in my heart

  1. Connect with friends – As much as there are cattiness and competition among the elementary school mothers of Monterey, the core of this show is a celebration of sisterhood and depiction of genuine female friendships. Female friendship can be messy and complicated, but it’s refreshing to see complex women being fiercely loyal to one another. It makes me miss my core group of girlfriends who live near and far. I’ve been spending the time to call or catch-up over a meal together.
  2. Be the change. Domestic abuse awareness – The show provokes a crucial discussion about what domestic violence looks like. And that awareness should continue IRL, beyond the flat screen. Kidman’s character, Celeste Wright, a successful attorney turned stay-at-home mom to twins, has a seemingly picture-perfect marriage. However, behind closed doors, she silently suffers from domestic abuse. This was a painful storyline of the show. We empathized with her physical and emotional journey and struggle. She even blames herself, feeling shame, and being helpless. What I learned while serving on the Center for Pacific Asian Family’s South Bay Advisory Council is that domestic abuse can happen anywhere and to anyone–there are no color, culture, or city lines drawn. What prevents victims from seeking help are cultural and language barriers, shame, fear, and/or lack of access to resources. There are a wealth of centers and organizations now that can help those affected from DV. If you or anyone you know is suffering from DV or sexual assault, contact your local authorities and they can help refer you. If you live in the Los Angeles Asian Pacific Islander community, call CPAF’s free 24 hours/day, 7 days/week multilingual hotline 1-800-339-3940.
  3. Set the mood with Big Little Lies music on Spotify – With the tunes of Michael Kiwanuka’s “Cold Little Heart,” Leon Bridges’ “River,” Neil Young’s “Harvest Moon,” this show has a rockin’ good soundtrack. It made me feel the feels. This Spotify playlist has been on repeat since, forever.
  4. Start watching Netflix’s 13 Reasons Why – We’ve been anticipating this new Netflix series based on Jay Asher’s 2007 bestseller novel about the suicide of a bullied high school girl. She records 13 tapes prior to her death, dedicating each tape to the 13 people who’ve caused her to take her own life.  We’ve been on an emotional roller coaster that has us discussing heavy topics like bullying, rape, and suicide that plague young adults.
  5. Get outside and explore! – It’s springtime! The weather is better so go get some sun (make sure you protect with SPF!). Lace up your sneakers and go explore your city, hike the trails, picnic in the park, or experience the super bloom.

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